Recently, a girlfriend of mine told me she never had an orgasm. At first I laughed, (a lot by the way) because I couldn’t imagine a woman of her age and beauty has yet to experience the enjoyment of an orgasm. 

            According to her, she always felt the need to allow the man to be dominant during sex. Sadly and surprisingly, a lot of women from different walks of life can relate to her.

            Research shows, “about 75 percent of all women never reach an orgasm from intercourse alone—that is without the extra help of sex toys, hands or tongue. And 10 to 15 percent never climax under any circumstances.”

            Ladies, I’m not a sex guru nor do I have a million notches under my belt (maybe a few hundred) but I feel it’s my duty and obligation to help you achieve that ultimate orgasmic feeling or at least make it better one.

I was once in your shoes, having sex with men who left me sexually frustrated. However, as I got older, my hormones heightened and my patience became thinner. I, too, wanted to experience the toes curling, eyes rolling and tongue speaking climax I read about in the Zane books.

 

Below are two tips that have done me justice:

 

Masturbation

            Yes I said it, masturbation. I know some of you are thinking “touching myself down there is nasty!” Honey, so is a dry spell. Before anyone else can get you off, you as a woman need to know your body, what turns you on, and more importantly become in tune with your clitoris and G-spot, which are places a lot of men don’t pay enough attention to!

 Fantasize about what you want your man to do, as you play with your clit and caress your breasts. Pay attention to how your body acts when you’re touching yourself. Your body responds to stimulation quicker once you’re already turned on mentally.

            I personally, don’t like to be fingered, (doesn’t come close to rocking my boat) which is why I have a trusty handy dandy sex toy, called The Bullet. Studies have shown, “that 90% of women have 95% of their orgasms through clitoral stimulation.” The vibrations from this little device on your clit, will have you in hog heaven!

            Depending on which sex store you go to, The Bullet cost roughly between $40-$50, which will be money well spent!

 

Positions

            My favorite position I recommend is “woman on top.” Start by gyrating your hips in an elliptical motion on his pelvic bone. Depending on the angle, the speed will allow stimulation onto your clitoris and G-spot. As you do this, squeeze your PC muscles (pussy muscles), this will increase the intensity for both you and your partner and propel the both of you to have an amazing orgasm.

            For intimacy, get into the same position but this time have your man sit up and cross his legs, as you straddle him and cross your legs behind his back. Hold on to one another as you slowly rock back and forth before you increase the speed. Believe it or not a lot of men like this position because of the closeness of body contact.

            Another good position is “doggie style.” It sounds dirty, and technically speaking, IS dirty but it feels incredible IF it’s done right! This position allows you to receive a much deeper penetration directly onto your G-Spot.

            My beautiful ladies, being sexually deprived is unacceptable unless you’re practicing abstinence. In that case, more power to you.  Nevertheless, if you’re going to engage in sex don’t just make it pleasurable for your partner but apply the same enthusiasm into receiving your orgasm. Masturbate until your hand fall off and invest in a Kama Sutra book. I promise you will climax from at least one of these helpful options! J